I had never even pondered it, I had no idea how much he made not did I care. http://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1tws3t/would_you_date_a_girl_who_makes_significantly/. I would not want to cheat on my husband.

In her new book, Dollars and Sex: How Economics Influences Sex and Love, economics professor Marina Adshade applies the principles of supply and demand to the world of sex and love. A man who earns less than I do may be tempted to cheat on me with a woman who earns less than he does because she makes him feel superior. This phenomenon will push him to be either of these two personalities. I am a woman who makes more than my husband and our situation is growing less unique by the day.

When he reappeared he came clean about the money issue. A little less but in the same ballpark is no big deal. When we first started dating, I was making 25k and he was making $100 a week. I do not want my husband to ever feel that he needs to prove himself.

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1. For this reason, I will marry a man who has a bigger income than I do. By Tis Leigh Tuesday, January 16, 2018. But not significantly less. A: You can probably tell that when it comes to the future of marriage I am an optimist. I’m sorry, I just would not; and if I did, there would be no one to blame but me when my man starts to act undesirably.
As long as he could take care of himself and his bills and didn't rely on me for that, sure.

He will be hesitant to buy me stuff because he thinks I already have them or that I can buy them for myself, you know, since I got more money. I am not making a mistake by marrying a man who isn’t as … From an economist’s perspective, it makes no difference who earns the highest wage — the male or female partner.

Q: Can you explain the theory that people get married as an opportunity to consume more?

Thanks for explaining so well how I feel about this! I also want a certain standard of living for myself and my future family, which would be more difficult to attain if the guy I marry doesn't earn much. So I am considered to be quite intimidating sometimes. AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space.

As you can see, I have reasons enough not to marry below me. A: It only matters in that failing to conform to social norms makes people uncomfortable. Q: Can you explain how the educational divide between men and women might influence future pairings? I make good money, nothing crazy, but I dated one guy who very seriously suggested I "go part time." I like to think of marriage like taking a trip to Italy — not only is it cheaper for two people to go together than it is for two people to go alone, but generally that experience is also more enjoyable when it is shared. There are more important things in life than money. My current SO and I are very close to even (he makes a bit more than I do but his monthly expenses are also higher) but if I continue on the track I'm on, there's a good possibility I will outearn him within a few years. Money's tight, of course, but we're good. He would make snide comments about how he would rather date a waitress than a lawyer and would say things like he would never want to have kids with me because I wouldn't stay home (hello? My future hubby and I make approximately the same amount of money although we do very different jobs. A: There is no evidence that relationships in which the husband earns more than his wife are happier marriages. By Maureen Rice Updated: 03:51 EDT, 11 February 2010 . But we broke up because we were on extremely different paths in life, no matter how much we loved each other, and his new path involved moving to Denmark for grad school. It's kind of old fashioned to expect that it'll always be the male making more, isn't it ...?
He's since 'retired' to raise our son. My boyfriend of 13 years made about 25% of my income. When we first started dating, I was making 25k and he was making $100 a week. I make double what my ex did, and it was never a problem except that I found he spent a lot of money he didn't have on frivolous things and didn't have much concept of saving. I wouldn't want a relationship with an ultra rich guy who couldn't handle his finances either. I'm an RN. 8. The way a guy's personal finances affect how I view our relationship doesn't have to do with how much he earns but whether or not he is a responsible person with money and whether or not we have the same outlook on how to save/spend money. 6. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. While marrying a man who earns more money than you will make you wealthier, if you really are looking for “until death do you part” you are probably better off with someone who earns a similar income to yourself. Soooo…I have decided that every Tuesday, I will upload a post that is a list of 10. And really, that should be okay. How did that go? A man who is on top of his game, a man who makes his own decisions, a man who is confident and who demands respect…and for some reason, successful men tend to have these qualities. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. List #1: 10 Reasons I will marry a man who earns more than me…. I can already picture my sweet loving- and generous- husband…. A: A matchmaking friend of mine tells me that the women she sees not only prefer a partner who makes more money, but one who makes significantly more. By that point I had moved on but I really liked the guy! He and I are both fine with it. Is money ever a point of contention between you two? Win/win in my book. We're happy.

I like to plan my life and get things done. Yeah, that would not go down well. A: This is an important story because it goes a long way in explaining why we continue to marry despite the fact that the historic advantage of marriage — to allow one person to specialize in earning income while the other person specialized in caring for the family — is no longer the norm. Working 40 hours a week and I was making more than minimum wage. A new book shows the financial dynamic that statistically leads to successful relationships. I was ok with that but he wouldn't support my career path at all... And I paid for absolutely everything we did. In the end, you have to decide what YOU can live w/ ... My husband and I were 17 and 18 when we started dating. I would NOT want my husband to cheat on me. St. Joseph Communications uses cookies for personalization, to customize its online advertisements, and for other purposes. When couples have more similar incomes, the power to make decisions on issues that really matter to families is more evenly shared between husband and wife.

That actually makes no sense for me since I'm a Professor and I worked VERY hard to get a full time position! ( Log Out / 

And my last reason (yeah, I bet you didn’t think I would get to ten huh)… Imagine me appearing in Forbes, and my husband…not! Posted a similar question in AskMen (http://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1tws3t/would_you_date_a_girl_who_makes_significantly/) and got many replies along the lines of "I would date a girl who made more than me but she wouldn't want to date me"... so, ladies, would you date someone who made significantly less money than you? My fiance has made less money than me throughout our entire 8 year relationship, except for a few months when I was unemployed. That’s downright admirable. I see it as a reward of supporting us through school. Stay at home dad here, not all of us dudes are like that.

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Increasing female education levels, along with the narrowing of the gender wage gap, means that in the future more and more marriages will be one in which the female partner brings home most of the bacon. He may even start acting all subdued and the like. Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com. Updated April 30, 2013. In other words, this is not something I just wish to do and would not mind if it didn’t happen; this, is something I plan to follow through.

Today, many women who are able to earn a good income might actually be better off if they married a partner who is less focused on his career; there is something to be said for having a partner whose job is flexible enough that they can do their share of work at home. No. By Sarah Treleaven Updated April 30, 2013. All this considered, add my salary on top (and yes I plan to make lotsa money), a man earning less than me could be quite intimidated. she went after her doctorate while I worked my ass off to support us. Without fail they made a big issue out of it. A wife who earns more than her husband does messes up with his ego; and even if they would not admit it, men are a bit intimidated by a woman who earns more than they do. I don't want to feel like I have to support my future husband on my paycheck, I want him to be an equal contributor. So what?

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Who do you think will support us?) I trust him to be responsible with his finances, I like how ambitious and driven he is in his career, and he is motivated to build something together, which I like. I will call it ‘Ten Tuesday’! I plan to be a faithful and loyal wife.

I want my man to spoil me. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast.

He would get pissed if I paid for anything (like a pizza or dinner) took it as a personal attack on him. ( Log Out /  My wife and I started dating in h.s. He will be hesitant to buy me stuff because he thinks I already have them or that I can buy them for myself, you know, since I got more money.

If my husband earns less than I do, I would be compelled to pay more bills and buy more stuff, and in the end, the kids (and myself) will depend more on me, than my husband. My parents have very different spending habits (mom's a frugal saver, dad is an irreductible spender on dumb shit who falls for every new 'trend' of fitness, technology, etc) and share the same bank account...I've seen how it affects relationships, I don't want to go that road. 10. He made about 70% of my income I found out later which isn't a big deal to me.

Men who earn less than their wives are more likely to have high expectations and place more responsibilities on their wives. Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. Income wasn't an issue back then. I would have happily eaten pb&j with him at home.